Top tips for raising polite children (Part 2)

  1. Niceness & Politeness

The Golden rule is to treat others the way you want to be treated. Teach your children to be their brother’s keeper. Starting with their siblings the act of being nice is a must.

Yusuf and Zahra  alongside their mum, Aisha Buhari and sisters
Yusuf and Zahra alongside their mum, Aisha Buhari and sisters

It is about feeling free to share toys, information, knowledge and possessions when need be. Being nice to siblings grows into being nice to friends, colleagues, teachers, family members and parents. Stop all attitude that protrude selfishness, greediness, pride or offensiveness. Do not accept growing negativity, as this is the beginning of personality and character identification.

Your child must make that effort to go out their way to be nice and polite. Gracious women and men today think of others as they think of themselves. They stand out from the crowd.

  1. Bullying Traits

Bullying tendencies start from insecurity and negative self-talk. It can also emanate from bad gossiping behind someone’s back.  Teach your child to be content with what they have now and promote their potential to be great in life. The tenacity and drive to succeed should be exhibited in you first; your child will emulate you.

  1. Techy- Savvy Skills

We have no choice but join the 21st century new technology to stay abreast of them. Techy savvy skills has the tendency to encourage very uncivil activities. Cyber bullying is common among children with access to social media, the smart phone, tablet and iPad exposing children tremendously. Be on the alert, install parental control on these devices if you have decided that they will need these devices.

Information is free for all but be aware of what your child is exposed to, what they are watching, what they are hooked on. Don’t be aloof psychologically; connect with your child. To encourage politeness, let your child know when and where to use their devices. As hard as it sounds try to avoid and discourage addiction, engage your child in other hobbies, activities and events.

  1. The Art of Giving

Finally, every time your child goes to a friend’s party, teach them how to buy a gift, fill out a greeting card and present the gift with love. It is not about how much the gift cost, it is the thought that counts. Even if it is a birthday greeting sent by text message, that is the act of politeness needed to cultivate good character.

  1. Telephone Manners

Manners on the telephone is a skill that must be taught and learnt. Follow these simple rules:


(a)       Do not use the phone in certain public places like the place of worship, the airplane or in the cinema

(b)       Do not eat while on the phone

(c)       Do not shout down the phone

(d)       Watch what you say on the phone. Do not say anything

sensitive about your family

(e)       Do not slam the phone down on someone

(f)        Do not tell anyone you are here alone.


(a)       Pick the phone and greet first

(b)       Ask who they want to speak with

(c)       Speak up and speak out

(d)       Follow school rules on the use of phones

(e)       Take pictures with permission

(f)        Remember to say goodbye

  1. Sportsmanship

Teach your child to be a good sportsman. The attitude of respect for themselves, their team members and opposite team is important. When they win they should celebrate themselves and at the same time celebrate the winnings of others. Sportsmanship involves fairness, respect for one’s opponent and gracious winning or losing when participating in sports. When you teach your child good sportsmanship they will avoid arguing, challenging rules and the ability to avoid complaints. Your child will learn how to obey rules and play them. Without rules there is no sports.

Finally a polite child is the stepping stone to leading a polite society, country and global economy. Dare to be different!

Best of luck!




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